“Tru Values Program
YOUR VALUES are the behavior and activities to which you are naturally drawn. Values are who you really are. This includes things like:
The complete list of over 150 values follows. The Core Values Program™ helps you to understand values, discern your top 4 values and puts you on a path to honoring them. To honor your values is to give yourself the ultimate gift. Your values are not as clear when clouded by Unresolved Matters and unmet needs. It is also recommend that you work with a Professional Coach trained in Values work. You can do this on your own, but you will complete this program more quickly and more fully with a trained coach who has completed the process him/herself.
The purpose of the Tru Values Program is to help you to:
1. Identify what your true values really are
2. Create and complete a Values Expression Project
3. Reorient your life around expressing these core values.
What Are True Values?
Values are things you do or that you find very attractive.
When engaged in these activities, you feel most like yourself: Well, connected, excited, glowing and effortless. We like these things, but most of us lead lives, which do not grant us the chance to JUST do these things. We may be
too busy with “responsibilities”, Unresolved Matters, chasing unmet needs, just getting by, etc. In order to honor your Core Values, you will have to substantially alter and enhance your life to get the room you need to engage in this ideal life.
Many of us spend our lives trying (consciously or not) to honor these Core Values. We find ourselves getting disturbed or frustrated, bored or complacent, wishing and hoping to have a better life — this better life is, among other things, based on your Core Values. Will you give yourself the best gift ever? Embark on this program and don’t stop until you reach that expresses your core values.
Please read these instructions twice, so read carefully and let the subtleties show themselves.
Place your 4 True Values here:
STEP 1: SELECT 10 VALUES
Read the list of 150+ values and circle approximately 10 which resonate as a value for you. You are looking for a VALUE, not a want, a should, a fantasy or a wish. A value is a MUST for you to BE YOURSELF. Part of the first step is to TELL THE TRUTH about what you ACTUALLY VALUE or LOVE to do with your time. This may be the first time you have ever admitted this to yourself. Some of these you will know innately. Others require some straight looking. PLEASE be willing to “try on” words you might normally skip over. These may be hidden values; if so, you may have one or more of the following reactions:
-No, no, no; that would be too much fun!
-That’s a silly value; I should have a better one.
– If that were true, I’d have to change my life a lot!
– Flush, blush or shake when reading the word
Got the idea? Good. Now circle the 10 words, which you believe to be Core Values. Ask yourself: “If I had this, would I be naturally turned on, without efforting?” (work yes, struggle no)
STEP 2: NARROW YOUR VALUES TO 4
We all value a little of everything listed on this page. But we want you to pick the 4 Core Values from the ones you circled. You may wish to compare each of your 10 with each other and ask yourself “Now, do I really prefer X or Y? Which ones aren’t that intriguing to me anymore? Which ones, when honored, make the other ones not as exciting?” Please choose your 4 Core Values and write them on the front panel where indicated.
Step 3: CREATE A LIFE WHICH HONORS & EXPRESSES YOUR VALUES
Now that you have your Core Values identified, you will want to create a way to have them all expressed, forever. This process has 3 parts as described below.
Honor Your Values
When you honor your values, you honor your Self or Inner Being. Values are those activities you naturally engage in when your life is in great shape. Until this time, you may be expressing (like doing) your values, but they are not being honored. To honor your values means to create and live your life in such a way that there is nothing in the way of you living your values. This means a life of integrity, free of addictions or attachments, all needs met, clearing unresolved past experiences, a full and supportive community – like an ideal life. Some people engage in this values process as a way to get a great life: “I want to honor and express my values, so I am changing x, y and z!” they exclaim. Hey, whatever reason you use to put your values FIRST is great. Look for examples of the kind of changes I am talking about on the last page of this program handout under Step 7. Choose 3 of these changes to begin fully honoring your values.
Express Your Tru Values Through A Project Now that you’ve cleared the decks and upgraded your life so your values can play, it is time to come up with a fun project which gives your values a showcase – a way to get stimulated and used; a way to show yourself that living your values is both possible and fulfilling. (Fulfillment is the experience of life one has when values are honored and expressed.) This project shouldn’t have any shoulds about it. Don’t pick one that will drive you crazy, one that you are not ready for (but “should be”), one that you think you should want, but really don’t. Rather, design a project that lets you play big or play well, effortlessly. Examples are in Step 11 on the last page of this handout. Design a project that brings out your best, naturally. Don’t do a project in order to “get something” out of it. Do it because you enjoy it. Align Your Goals With Your Values After finishing your values expression project, you are ready for the final phase – aligning your life goals with your values. In other words, being at the place in life where you can afford to set only those goals, which honor or express your values. But wow, what a place to be at in life! The alignment steps are:
1. Make a list of your 10 goals for this year.
2. Make a list of your top 10 values.
3. Match the goals with the values.
Note: The objective here is to only have value-based goals this year. If you have a goal that does not “fit” with one of your top 10 values, either adapt the goal to fit the value or GET RID OF IT and come up with another. Don’t adapt the value to the goal. And only have one goal per value. You are using your values as the reference point in your life – not your goals. And that is what makes this process so exciting!
Tru Values Program Checklist
Use this checklist to guide yourself through the program. Check the square when you have started on the step. Fill in the square when you have completed the step. Work these 25 steps in order. Do this process for each of the 4 values you’ve chosen as Core Values.
. 1. Select the Corer Value, using the procedure described in Step 1. Write in the value at the bottom of the first page of this program.
. 2. Ask yourself “Why is this value important enough to me to be a Core Value?” Write down 5 specific reasons on a sheet of paper.
. 3. Ask “Who am I when I am this value? How do I act? What do I think about? What motivates me?” Write down 5 specific examples on a piece of paper.
. 4. Ask “Who am I not when I am this value? How do I behave? How do I feel about myself? About others? About life?” Write down 5 specific responses on a piece of paper.
. 5. Ask “How well am I honoring or expressing this value? What am I doing in my life that permits this value to be free enough to express itself?” Write down 5 specific ways that you are currently honoring your values.
. 6. Ask “Where am I not honoring or expressing this value? What I am doing that restricts, dishonors or does not give my values the room and nourishment they need and deserve?” Write down 5 specific things you are doing which don’t serve your values.
. 7. Ask “What 3 changes would I make in my life in order to fully honor and express this value?” Write down the 3 specific (and probably large)
changes to make in the next 90 days. Examples of changes: • change jobs • face & handle something tough • stop smoking • start fully communicating • let go of duties • get special training • let go of the future • let go of draining people
—-8. Make change #1 -permanently.
—-9. Make change #2 -permanently.
—10. Make change #3 -permanently.
. 11. Ask “What is the project/goal that I could design which would be a full expression of this value?” Come up with the project. Examples of projects:
–Run the Boulder marathon
–Make $1,000,000 this year
–Write a book
–Throw a huge party
–Make yourself stunning
–Help 1,000 people out
–Invent a product/process
–Master a subject/field
–Climb Mt. Rainier
-Develop a community
— Get on a spiritual path
–Other create your own project/goal
.12. Outline and milestone the project into 7 Phases. Give each phase an assessable result or milestone with a deadline.
—13. Begin the project; complete Phase 1.
—14. Complete Phase 2.
—15. Complete Phase 3.
—16. Complete Phase 4.
—17. Complete Phase 5.
— 18. Complete Phase 6.
—19. Complete Phase 7. Tie up loose ends.
20. Celebrate significantly for completing your Core Values Expression Project. You’ll know what to do.
21. Ask “How must I now upgrade in my life to have this value fully honored and expressed throughout it?” Come up with 5 substantial changes.
—22. Make these changes.
23. Align your top 10 goals for this year with your top 10 values per procedures discussed in Step 3.
24. Share this process with a friend and help them get started with it.
25. Throw a party to celebrate your new life.” —Coach University
My True Values
What Is Most Fulfilling For You
Consider the following values:
Be your best
In touch with
Part of community
Relate with God
To feel good
You can download The Tru Values Program and Tru Values List as a PDF file Here:
“Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviors.
Keep your behaviors positive, because your behaviors become your habits.
Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.”